Building Real Connections on Campus

Why genuine relationships matter more than followers

College can feel like being thrown into a new world — full of people, opportunities, and endless group chats. But even with so much going on, it’s surprisingly easy to feel alone. Between classes, part-time jobs, and trying to keep up with everything, making real connections can sometimes fall to the bottom of the to-do list. Still, genuine relationships are one of the most valuable parts of the college experience — they shape your support system, mental health, and even your future.

1. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Let’s be real, most of us have our comfort zones. Whether that’s sticking with high school friends, hanging out only with your roommates, or scrolling social media instead of showing up to events, it’s easy to stay where things feel safe. But some of the best connections start when you try something new. Attend that club meeting, study group, or volunteer event even if you don’t know anyone there. You might find people who share your values or open your mind to something completely new.

2. Find People Who Challenge and Support You

Friendships in college don’t have to be surface level. Look for people who push you to grow — whether it’s academically, personally, or emotionally. Surrounding yourself with peers who respect your boundaries but also challenge your thinking can help you become more confident in who you are. Healthy friendships aren’t about perfection or popularity; they’re about mutual effort and respect.

3. Don’t Underestimate Small Interactions

Sometimes, the best connections start with something simple — a smile in class, helping someone with notes, or saying hi to someone sitting alone in the dining hall. Every interaction can lead somewhere meaningful. College is full of people who are just as nervous or uncertain as you, even if they don’t show it.

4. Building Your Network

Networking doesn’t have to feel forced or formal. Professors, mentors, and even classmates can become valuable connections in your professional journey. Ask questions, attend office hours, and stay in touch with people who inspire you. The relationships you form now can open doors later; internships, job opportunities, or collaborations that you might never expect.

Closing Thoughts

Real connections take time, but they make the college experience worth it. It’s not about collecting contacts, it’s about finding people who understand, support, and motivate you. In a world where social media often replaces genuine interaction, be intentional about showing up for others — and for yourself. I leave you with a challenge, whether it’s a classroom friend or someone you bump into at a coffee shop. I want you to take it further and try to find a real connection with them.